Every day feels the same. You’ve had enough.
I get it, I’ve been there.
Get up, work, sleep. Get up, work, sleep.
The monotony of each day being a copy paste of the last.
You wake up wondering whether anything will ever change…
Well, if that’s you, this will help you turn things around.
Welcome back to the Transformation Toolbox Series.
Tool #7 is Passenger Paradox.
Go from being stuck in the same place, to living life on your terms.
It reframes your journey, emphasising the importance of leaving your comfort zone – so you can experience purpose and joy.
Tool #8 is Simplify.
It turns big challenges into small steps that don’t feel impossible, but certain.
Once you decide to take the leap, this ensures you don’t get overwhelmed.
With these tools, you will be well equipped to make impactful changes in your life. Maybe that is quitting your dead-end job, maybe it’s starting a new hobby.
Either way, if you are ready to embrace more from life, this post is guaranteed to get you fired up and making your next move.
Q: Should I stay in my comfort zone?
A: Use the Passenger Paradox to find out.
Tool #7: Passenger Paradox
What is it?
Think of life as a train journey.
You board the train at birth, and as a child, you might not even realise you’re on it.
Your life path is pre-determined for you.
Until one day, curiosity strikes. You begin to ask yourself:
Where am I going?
As your awareness grows, you notice others surround you – some glued to their phones, others lost in books.
A few curious souls are gazing out the window, taking in the landscape passing by.
You get up and peer outside, captivated by the beautiful scenery.
Deep down, a question looms:
“Am I on the wrong train?”
There’s an inexplicable urge to get off and embark on your own journey, where you choose your destination.
But it’s scary to think about leaving the safety of your comfort zone, especially when others are with you.
So do you stay on the train, or do you get off it?
This is the Passenger Paradox.
How to apply it?
When life calls, it’s your responsibility to answer.
That persistent gnawing in the back of your mind isn’t by chance; it’s your destiny, and the universe is urging you to fulfil it.
Perhaps you’re an engineer dreaming of a music career, or a sales manager hoping to launch your own business and go self-employed.
What have you got to lose?
Take the leap. Follow your dreams. Answer the call.
The one thing that will hurt more than anything else is looking back at the end of your life and thinking:
“Damn. I wish I had taken that leap.”
Now is the time to get off your train.
Embrace the uncertainty, and start your own journey toward a destination you choose.
Don’t wait until the right moment comes.
Make the moment right by taking action and going after what you want.
Why it works?
The Passenger Paradox encourages us to reflect on the reality of our lives.
That we aren’t here forever and the human experience is finite.
It serves as a powerful visualisation tool, highlighting the very real threat of dying with regret.
Imagine arriving at the final stop of your journey only to realise that life has passed you by, and you‘ve ended up in a place you never intended to be.
I don’t know about you, but that fills me with dread.
Too often, we move through life on autopilot, caught up in the daily grind of work, family, and social obligations, without considering the consequences of our choices.
By contemplating the Passenger Paradox, we open ourselves up to the possibility that we are in charge of our destiny.
Because we are.
The question is, are you ready to embrace yours?
Remember: Your dreams won’t come true in an air-conditioned cabin.
Q: How can I overcome big challenges?
A: By Simplifying them.
Tool #8: Simplify
What is it?
One day, I had an early flight for a vacation.
Due to reasons I won’t disclose, I left packing my suitcase until the early hours of the morning on the day of my flight.
With no sleep and a long journey ahead, anxiety hit hard.
My chest tightened, my thoughts spiralled, and panic set in.
I started pacing the room, even considering cancelling the trip altogether because it felt like too much.
So, how did I get through it?
I simplified it.
Instead of focusing on the entire 16 hours ahead, I told myself:
Just take the first flight. If you still feel overwhelmed after that, then you can think about cancelling.
Just focus on the first flight – it’s manageable.
Suddenly, I began to calm down.
I packed my suitcase, made it to the airport, and took that first flight.
By the time I arrived at my first destination, I felt much better and was excited for the rest of my trip.
I took what seemed like an insurmountable task and turned it into simple, manageable steps.
That’s what Simplify is all about.
How to apply it?
When you’re facing a challenge or obstacle, break it down into smaller, manageable pieces.
Simplify the task into chunks that feel easy to handle.
If you’re hiking up a mountain, set a checkpoint every kilometre where you can take a rest.
If you‘re job hunting, start by updating your CV.
If you’re learning to play the harmonica, begin with just five minutes of practice each day.
Don’t focus on the finish line, focus on the next step you need to take.
As long as you keep moving forward, one step at a time, inevitably you’ll reach your goal.
It’s not about doing it all at once; it’s about making consistent progress without overwhelming yourself.
Why it works?
Big challenges often feel intimidating.
We worry that they’re beyond our abilities or that we lack the skills or experience to succeed. Maybe we feel out of our depth.
But remember, everyone started as a beginner.
Even Neil Armstrong once had to learn his five times table. And he made it all the way to the moon.
By breaking things down and simplifying, we build belief.
We realise, I can do this. And each time we succeed, we build self-trust.
That trust becomes a foundation, making it easier to take on the next step, and the next one.
Over time, that self-belief compounds.
So, as you begin your journey up the mountain, you say:
“I can handle 1 km. That’s not so bad.”
Soon enough, after a few more 1 km hikes, you find yourself standing at the summit, breathing in the fresh air of victory.
Remember: Focus on taking one small step at a time, and as those steps compound, the impossible becomes possible.
Next time on the Transformation Toolbox…
It’s the series finale.
Tools #9 and #10.
Resistance Compass and Memory Spheres.
Two of the most influential tools that have had a massive impact on my own development over the years.
They will help you:
Identify which direction to go when you feel lost.
Take action that leads to personal growth.
Visualise your memories in a practical way to simplify self-reflection.
Unravel and release old limiting beliefs holding you back.
Until then, take care.
At your side, always.
–ONM
P.S. If this lit anything up for you, I’d love to hear about it.
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